Note to Self #3 – This Is Not The End of the Journey

A Wrong Pathway 2

Dear T,

You’ve only had one calling ever since you remember – to write your way into this world. Living in an imaginative bubble, your best friends growing up were books, paper, a pencil and your sister’s old typewriter. You were always good at languages and the written word in school but did not have a strong affinity toward other subjects. The one dream you had as a young’un was to become a writer/reporter. Your dad used to encourage you to keep reading and writing and you would send letters to the editor and short stories for story-writing competitions to the local children’s magazine and was even fortunate enough to have a couple of them published. You had dreams of writing a novel a la Enid Blyton or even starting your own magazine someday.

However, when you came to a big crossroad in your life called ‘choosing a career’, the path you chose took your further away from your passions. Although your father was very encouraging of writing as a creative hobby, he did not believe that you would have been able to handle the pressures of a journalism career or make enough money. Eventually, after much discussion and many arguments later, you ended up picking Commerce of which you had no idea of or aptitude for.

Since this turning point, you have definitely learned some hard and harsh lessons along the way:

1. Don’t let one wrong decision ruin your entire life. Develop a fighting spirit.
Not planning an alternative route to get to your dream is something which you didn’t think of at the time. Unfortunately, you gave up too easily when things didn’t go your way. Had you continued writing, you would have built a sizable portfolio of work by the time you graduated from college. This has made you realize that you should never give up something you love doing. Do it for the love of the craft even if no one supports your decision or even if you cannot make a career out of it. Your craft will keep you sane.

2. Just because you’re weak at something doesn’t mean you can’t learn it.
Fear and anxiety have been a part of your intrinsic make up since early childhood. You’ve had no problem coming up with concepts and ideas but putting them into action has always been a big challenge for you. The most important lesson you have recently learned is that even with fewer strengths and many weaknesses, your confidence increases when you know you’re good at something and are doing it right. So keep pursuing your craft, developing it, making mistakes and learning from it. Find that one thing you’re good at and work on it tirelessly.

3. Don’t get dejected, depressed or stressed. Just keep going and make the best with what you’ve got.
After you graduated from college in travel and tourism (which was truly a fun course!), you were quite lost and it wasn’t just because of the recession that came at that exact moment. Your right-brained creative mind was fighting against a 9-5 desk job and you found yourself not wanting to apply for jobs in your field. Your heart was still set on a career in the media field which could give you creative job satisfaction but your stubbornness to accept reality kept pulling you backward. Recently a dear friend who you truly admire mentioned that she made the best of whatever situation she was in. This made you realize that you didn’t have to stay stuck on a single track. It’s not always, ‘my way or the highway’ rather it’s about finding a middle ground.

4. If you really love something, your calling will keep calling! Don’t let it become a missed call again.
Who says dreams cannot come true? Finally, last year, you were able to complete your Masters in Media and Communication and it was the best decision you could ever have taken because it reintroduced you to a side you thought had completely died. Sure, you could have made better decisions while pursuing this course but the basic skills you learned like graphic designing, editing, writing, photography, creating publications et cetera brought out your fun and creative streak. This blog which was initially part of that course is now an essential part of your life. Writing and expressing yourself here has made you more confident and this is one form of expression that given time and lots of practice, you could develop further to give you the creative satisfaction that you have always dreamed of.

Each of the wrong turns you took 15 years ago have luckily taught you many important things in their wake. The most important lesson here is not to doubt your abilities even if things don’t go your way. The wrong pathway is not the end of the journey. You can always find your way back again. I hope, T you will remember this.

Much love,

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12 thoughts on “Note to Self #3 – This Is Not The End of the Journey

  1. Write This Down says:

    Found myself nodding to a lot of this. I too have felt the same way on many of your points. Life comes down to contentment, and for the most part, we choose whether to be content or not. Good luck on your ventures. I’m still working on the balance part. I work full time in an office, and am in the national guard which takes up way more time than one weekend a month, so finding balance and structure for me is key to getting my writing in.

    Chin up and good luck!

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    • Thistles and Whistles says:

      Thank you so much! It was a very difficult post to write and I kept wanting to not post it but felt I had to share it. I have a huge problem in finding balance too in life, I find myself procrastinating more than finding the determination to follow my dreams. It’s definitely something I need to work on! Thanks so much for sharing and good luck to you as well! We both need it! 😀

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  2. kathiegregory says:

    Hi T, this post is insightful, and I can relate a lot to it – some similarities there. I’m really pleased you have been able to make your dream a reality, and look forward to seeing where writing takes you. Best wishes kathie.x

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    • Thistles and Whistles says:

      Thank you so much Kathie! It was a difficult post to write and I wasn’t sure if I should post it because it felt too personal. I am glad that it turned out to be relatable though! I wish you all the best too and I am so happy that you have used your passion and knowledge of animal behavioural training to write a book! You inspire me to continue writing! All my best, Tx 😀

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  3. Liz says:

    Thank you for sharing this, I read it nodding my head in agreement 🙂 Congrats on your Masters! It’s great to hear from someone who knows that a wrong turn doesn’t have to be the end of the road x

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    • Thistles and Whistles says:

      Thank you so much Liz! I am glad that you were able to relate to this post as well! I have a long long way to go but at least I know that the dream isn’t dead yet! Just have to find a way to keep it alive and kicking. All my best, Tx 😀


  4. Annie says:

    I love this, T! Especially “your calling will keep calling, don’t let it become a missed call again.” We should listen carefully so when our calling calls we know it and we’re ready to answer and follow it 😊

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  5. Deeksha says:

    The whole of the first paragraph is like a page taken out of my early childhood.. (Despite the fact that I don’t have a sister..!) The Enid Blyton dream.. So true.. I could totally relate to this post…!! Great post and great blog.. Love the theme and your excellent writing..!!


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